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WhyDid Wisdom: A Bag Full of Shit

By Kirsten|August 6th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

As we made our way up Runyon for the second time the other evening, we spied a plastic bag full of doggy doo. Hm… I understand that you are to clean up after your pooch, but wouldn’t you say that leaving it IN a plastic bag is worse than just leaving the doo right where it is? I should say so. While stinky and potentially hazardous to the bottom of your shoe, at least the naked doggy doo will eventually decompose as it would in nature and disappear as opposed to wrapping up the stinky doo in a pretty plastic bag and leaving it to sit and rot and never biodegrade.

This led me to thinking about people and their relationships. Why, oh why, can’t some people just seem to let things die? Why must they insist on wrapping up their doo doo in plastic bags and leaving it to fester?

Sometimes, people have a difficult time letting things go, and this is understandable, but, for those of you who just can not seem to get the point, I’d like to send you a copy of He’s Just Not That Into You. Painful as it may be, at times, it is best to just walk away with your head held high and dignity still in tact. So many times, we try and argue with the outcome and in reality, it’s never going to change anything.

Many bloggers and media personalities like to exploit their relationships publicly. I’m not exactly sure whether it’s in attempt to lure their lost lover back or just to draw more sympathy. Either way, it merely ends up making said individuals look sad and desperate. (Neither of which is particularly appealing to the opposite sex). If they were smart, they’d lay low on the love front. For example, I’ve clearly got quite the arena for blowing up all of my ex’s spots if I so choose to. However, I find this to be a little tacky and I prefer a bit of mystique around my personal life (if I even have one). I mean, to each his own. We’ve all go to pay the bills, and if that’s how you’ve got to drive traffic or to score a date, then so be it.

That being said, even people in every day life do the same thing. They broadcast inane details via Facebook and Twitter in an attempt to sound like they are “having such a blast!!” and are “soooo over you!!” when in reality, a little bit of silence would do you some good. Bloggers are making a living from it, but what are you gaining?

Why not just let the poo disintegrate? Why wrap it up in a plastic bag if you’re going to leave it behind? Maybe it’s best to let a sleeping dog lie. Tiptoe out the backdoor and let him drool.

xx,

WhyDid

WhyDid Wisdom: Cleaning Out the Rubbish

By Kirsten|August 5th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

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As the weather shifts from warm and balmy to brisk and cool, it’s time to reorganize and re-evaluate. Not only am I talking about your wardrobe, but also your life. I’ve talked many times about cleaning out your closet, but there is another type of cleanse that is vital to one’s well being. No, I am not talking about the Blue Print Cleanse, I mean the social cleanse.

It seems we hold onto some relationships like we do that pilling cashmere sweater from Bendel’s. Why, oh, why can we not bear to part with it? You sure as hell aren’t going to be caught out in public wearing that raggedy sweater, so why would you want to be out in public with some of your relationships?

Case of the ex: Sometimes we are lucky enough to remain friendly with our ex’s. However, this is few and far between. One of the parties is always still interested (or hopeful) in something else happening besides friendship. If you’d like to move forward in the dating arena, it’s time to cut ties with that pesky ex. Next!
Frenemies: Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. EHHHH. Don’t keep anyone evil near you. What’s the point? When you allow bad people (energy) around you, all you’re going to do is attract more. Who needs a “friend” that isn’t really your friend? Nobody!
Drama llamas: Yes, Sally is funny and always down for a good time, but it seems that EVERY single time you go somewhere, some type of drama ensues. We are not in an installment of Sweet Valley High. No need for the added stress in your life. Next time Sally calls to hang out, politely decline.
Needy Petey: I don’t know about you, but I stopped babysitting when I was 15. So, if I need to babysit my friends when we are out and about, I better be making $10/hr.
Tick Tock tag-a-longs: Do you have a friend who you merely keep around just because you’re bored and need someone to fill the time? When everyone else is busy, is this the person you call? Not only is that mean to your “pal” it’s also mean to yourself. Why not spend some quiet time with yourself? Instead of wasting your time with someone you feel “so-so” about, spend that time on yourself- perhaps getting a manicure or reading a good book.
Moochey Moochey coo: What about your “friend” who never has cash on them? Or always just so happens to forget their wallet? Do they always say, “I’ll get you next time” yet you’re still waiting on “next time”? It’s time to cut your moocher friend loose. Your wallet will thank you for it.

Once you make room in your life for more positive people, they will suddenly show up (if you build it, they will come). Suddenly, your social calendar will be full, you popular girl, you.

xx,

WhyDid

The Bachelorette: Hangover Edition

By Kirsten|August 4th, 2010|Uncategorized, Why Did You Date Him?|

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So now that we’ve all recovered from The Bachelorette Season Finale on Monday night, let’s dissect it. I mean, we all knew she was going to pick Roberto from the get go, so who are we kidding? Those “choosing single” rumors were merely cover up for the blatantly obvious choice. Besides, there was no way in hell a girl like Ali was going to choose being alone.

Of the past 17 seasons, only two couples have actually wed (Trista and Ryan and Jason and Molly – not the original pick, FYI), so this would lead me to believe that there is a common thread here. I mean, despite the fact that 85% of these people are just trying to become famous or further their careers, the entire season is taped over the course of a mere three weeks! Who the HELL falls in love that fast?

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Well, the good folks over at ABC have cracked the code on how scientifically people fall in love (and have fully exploited it). By putting said bachelors and bachelorettes in extremely romantic locations and and forcing them to do things like jump out of helicopters and go for hot air balloon rides (which I have done and have plenty to say about it- more on this later) they are tricking their brains into feeling love. Don’t believe me?

Adrenaline, dopamine, and serotonin are all released when the brain experiences the first love pangs (also known as attraction). All of these chemicals being released actually change the way people’s brains work. During this beginning stage of love, couples tend to be “blind” and exalt their relationship. All of this happens before actual attachment has even occurred. Meaning, that while these people may have very strong initial feelings for one another, these could easily wear off and suddenly they awake with a love hangover.

So, I will wish my best to Ali and Roberto, but let’s see how they do after spending some time doing “real life.” All the boring mundane things that life is actually made of. Let me know how much you like Roberto after picking up his dirty gym socks for a few weeks.

xx,

WhyDid

WhyDid Wisdom: WhyDid Unplugged

By Kirsten|July 29th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

Once while home visiting my mom in West Virginia, she nearly threw my Blackberry at my head a la Naomi Campbell because I just would not/could not put it down. She was frustrated that I was constantly tapping away on it and not listening to her (little does she know that I am capable of two things at once!). I do, however understand her concern. I was being a bit obnoxious about it.

So when my phone conveniently fell into the toilet the last time I was home, my mom was secretly elated. (I wouldn’t be surprised if she paid off that toilet to trip me so I’d drop my phone). After that whole “rice” suggestion not really panning out, I was sitting around without a phone until my replacement was shipped. As mentioned, her computer is from 1999 and her home is not equipped with Wifi. Sigh. What’s a girl to do? How on earth was I going to keep up with Twitter updates and update my Facebook status?

We are an incredibly overstimulated society. There are far too many distractions for us. Family dinners are nearly non existent and the ones that are usually are drowned out by the garble on TV. Kids are being diagnosed left and right with ADD when they really are probably just overstimulated with all the Hannah Montana and Dora the Explorer going on. No one remembers how to pick up the phone anymore let alone pen a handwritten letter. We don’t even use full words anymore. “C U L8R!”

It’s so very easy to get caught up in our little social bubbles that we forget to just be totally quiet. When’s the last time you really had a moment to yourself? Complete peace and quiet?

I suggest taking an entire afternoon or even a weekend if you can muster up the courage to completely unplug and disconnect with the outside world so that you can re-connect with yourself. I’m willing to bet that the world will carry on as normal with or without your BBM’s.

xx,

WhyDid

Why Did You Date Him: Samantha Who?

By Kirsten|July 28th, 2010|Why Did You Date Him?|

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As I sit here with a dog on my left, cat on my right, Deluscious cookie wrappers strewn about and watching Sex and the City DVD’s (I’m PMS’ing, don’t judge me), I started thinking about our dear friend, Samantha.

We all love to think that we’ve got a little Samantha in us. Unfortunately, I don’t know that that’s true.

After years of playing cat and mouse with a guy, I finally agreed to clear my schedule and make it a date. No friends as bodyguards, no BS, no games. After dinner I decided to Summit Escorts my fellow back to his hotel and allow whatever was meant to happen happen. I told myself it was totally fine and braced myself for emotional impact. During the deed, I caught myself thinking, “Is this okay?” When it was all said and done and he went to the restroom, I put my clothes on faster than a wardrobe change backstage during fashion week. When he came back and I was buckling my shoes he was startled and told me he’d like me to stay, but I was out of there like a bat out of hell.

On the way home, I thought about what had just happened. I had gone into it thinking that I didn’t care. I hadn’t cared about this guy for all the time that he had been pursuing me, so WHY all of a sudden did I care? Why is it, that women can not sleep around the way that men can? I know that a lot of women like to pretend that they can have sex with no feelings, but I really just don’t buy it. I just believe that women are wired much, much differently than men.

What do you think? Can women have sex like men? Void of feelings and commitment? Or is there a deeper lying issue here?

xx,

WhyDid

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