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Why Did You Date Him: A Case of the Ex

By Kirsten|January 27th, 2011|Why Did You Date Him?, WhyDid Wisdom|

The other day I had to pull an intervention on a girlfriend who was being completely crazy and masochistic. Though I love her dearly, I had to save her from herself. What was her problem? She was obsessing over an ex… The real problem? It wasn’t her ex. It was her boyfriend’s ex.

For some reason girls love to know about their boyfriend’s exes. I can not explain this. I think we want to find out why it didn’t work and obviously compare what an “upgrade” we are to his old flame. While a little curiosity may not kill you, if you let the need for knowledge get out of hand, you will drive yourself bat shit crazy. Thanks to Facebook, Twitter, and the good ol’ Google, you can do quite a bit of reconnaissance work.

However, be careful how deep you dare to dig because once you see some things, you will never be able to erase them from your brain. In all honesty, yes, he did have a life before you. Yes, he has had other girlfriends. And yes, he did most likely care about them at some point in the previous relationship. Also, don’t forget that you have a past too. I doubt your boo wants to think about all of the boys before him and I doubt you’d want him to.

I had a guy friend once tell me that his girlfriend brought up his ex so much that he had now thought about his ex MORE in his CURRENT relationship than he did when he was dating her. How crazy is that? You said you’d never have a threesome… yet it looks like his ex will be joining you every night in bed.

As if orchestrated by the heavens, I read a quote yesterday that perfectly summarized all of this:

If it happened before you, then it really doesn’t concern you. Don’t let an ugly past ruin a beautiful future. – Rob Hill Sr.

The point is, his ex is just that- his ex. If he loved her and wanted to be with her, he would. Do not get so caught up in the past that you completely destroy any chance of a future. You, my girl, are smart, beautiful, and wonderful and that’s why your boyfriend is with you. He’s not the one who can’t get over his ex… you are.

Get over it.

xx,

WhyDid

Would You Wednesday: Give Me a Ring

By Kirsten|January 26th, 2011|Why Did or Why Don't?|

It’s no secret that Jennifer Love Hewitt is A) a little bit loopy and B) hasn’t had the best luck in the dating department. So, it comes as no surprise that she created quite a bit of buzz in a recent interview. When she appeared on the Ellen Degeneres Show, she revealed that she’s got three different rings at Tiffany’s all picked out for her future betrothed.

Now, in reality, most young ladies all have a certain ring in mind when they think about the “big question” being popped. So, there is certainly a chance that we may have left subtle hints lying around or have pointed out a ring we like on someone else’s finger. Some of us may have even delegated a close friend (with good taste) as the “go to” gal if your beau should have any questions or need guidance. I think all of that is normal.

However, the way Ms. Hewitt approached the topic was totally tacky and what sparked all the buzz. Picking her rings from Tiffany’s was her first rookie mistake in my humble opinion. I mean, could you be any more predictable and dull? Probs not. The real issue lies within her comments about not wanting to be “disappointed” with her ring. Did we not already cover this? Yo, Jen Love? Perhaps if you spent more time picking out a stellar stud, you could spend less time worrying about a gemological dud.

So, is it wrong to make a finger bling wish list? Or is it just plain tacky?

well, good luck, JLove.

xx,

WhyDid

Would You Wednesday: Skeggings

By Kirsten|January 26th, 2011|Why Did or Why Don't?|

I mean, first came leggings, then came jeggings, then majeggings, all leading up to the ingenious “pajama jeans.” (To be clear: NONE of these are pants). Now there’s apparently a little somethin’ somethin’ from the fine folks at HUE being made available to you called “skeggings.” (Anyone else thinking the name could possibly have been derived from skank + leggings?).

I’m sort of torn on these “skeggings.” While they are absolutely hideous (the way they are styled in this photo make me want to just end it) at least your vdot will be covered. I mean, it seems that some people will just never learn that leggings are not, nor will they ever be, pants. So, while these skirted leggings are sort of ridiculous, maybe they are doing more good than harm?

xx,

WhyDid

Why Did You Wear That: White Hot

By Kirsten|January 25th, 2011|Celebrity Style, Why Did You Wear That?|

The weather outside is frightful (unless you live in Los Angeles), but there’s no need to stay curled up inside like a hermit or flip your shit like the abominable snowman. Take a note from some very stylish celebs. Wearing white after Labor Day is no longer a fashion faux pas. Some of the sexiest starlets have been sporting winter white on all of the hottest red carpets.

So, before you reserve yourself to alpaca and shearling for the rest of the winter months, why not try out this winter’s most fiercely feminine color? Be sure to pick something in a heavier (winter weight) fabric. If you live somewhere especially frigid, look for long sleeves and pair your look with opaque or patterned tights. For footwear? Add a dash of color or something shiny!

Top (L to R): Alexander Wang Ribbed Tank Dress, $545, Halston Heritage Short Dress, $490, Milly Sleeveless Jewel Neck Dress, $355, Reiss Nanette Zip Frill Dress, $310

Bottom (L to R): Indah Macrame Back Mini Dress, $154, Acne Dolphin Draped Silk Wrap Dress, $660, Lauren by Ralph Lauren Carrie Boatneck Dress, $129, Religion 3/4 Length Dress, $98

Frosty!

xx,

WhyDid

Monday Mashup: Oh me, Oh my, Oh Pumpkin Pie.

By Kirsten|January 25th, 2011|Monday Mashup|

I can not lie. I love to watch The Bachelor. Something about watching fifteen crazy women compete for the love of one (somewhat crazy) man is a recipe for sheer entertainment. Call me a sociologist, but I love watching human interaction… especially that of the cray cray kind. I remember thinking that sweet, sweet Emily (a children’s hospital event planner- WTF??!! – from Charlotte, North Carolina) was a force to be reckoned with… until tonight. I’m not sure what the hell is happening in that bachelorette (hen) house, but something bad happened. Week by week, the girls get drunker, crazier, and somehow oranger. Perhaps they should check the vents? Maybe even check where the closest power plant is located cause something ain’t right. Maybe I need to fix the settings on my TV, but I think Brad may want to invest in some protective radioactive clothing.