I like to say that I still have yet to peak. You see, I was never the most popular or the best looking or the president of well, anything, but I’ve always hung around some pretty extraordinary people and done some pretty noteworthy things. I really have nothing to complain about, but I can no longer deny the reason behind why I have yet to rise to the top. You see, while I’m far from failing or flailing, I’ve been happy to live just right under the surface of greatness. Right below the radar, if you will.

As I recently did a little introspection, I realized I prefer to be a bit passive and just hope that things will come to me and “work out how they are supposed to” rather than getting up and making those things happen myself. Now, I get that some will still argue that things really do work out the way they are predetermined and you can’t force anything to happen that is not meant to (aka, you can never make someone love you)–and I believe there is some truth to that. However, I find myself saying, “when this” or “when that” and basically making excuses as to why I’m not doing exactly what it is that I was put on this planet to do. Doing that not only makes me a procrastinator (and a bit of a wimp), but also means that I’m not living presently.

And while flying under the radar won’t exactly harm you, per se, it’s also not going to get you to where you want to be. If not today or tomorrow, then when? What are we waiting for? Better yet– what are we so scared of? I think Drake said it best when he so aptly stated, “YOLO.” Here’s the thing, being at the top or the forefront, you are making yourself a target. The leader of the pack is the first one to get hit by a cab. You can’t be ripped down if you’re hiding in the bushes.

By putting yourself out there in whatever context that may be (career, dating, dreams), you are making yourself vulnerable. It would seem that sometimes it’s more comfortable living in limbo than having a definitive answer. If you don’t ever try, then you can’t be rejected, right? Rejection is not an easy pill to swallow and at times I don’t think my overly sensitive soul could handle it. So, rather than excel, I coast. Even down to the way I dress sometimes. I’ll stick on my glasses just to tone down my curve hugging dress and deflect any potential attention. I’d rather be a wallflower than a centerpiece.

By selling yourself short or getting too comfortable doing the conventional thing, you will never fully become the person you want to or are meant to be. And in all honesty, it’s sort of selfish to keep your gifts all to yourself. Sure, it’s frightening to think that shining could potentially mean crashing and burning, but if you never even give yourself a shot at arson, all you’ll ever be is a big ol’ waxy wick.

So, I’m wondering: are you living the life you want? Are you living up to your full potential? Are you diving in head first or just dipping your toe in the shallow end to be safe? Are you going to look back and say, “coulda, woulda, shoulda”? Because the only thing worse than failing is wishing that you’d tried.

Come on, get your lighter out, girl. It’s time to shine.

xx,

WhyDid

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Have I mentioned how much I love New York?  No?  Well, I do.  And while my adoration of the Big Apple may seem a bit “obsessive” to some, I’m not alone in my love affair.  More musicians than I can count have written love songs and odes to the city that never sleeps.  Now, my compilation doesn’t even begin to encompass all the ditties that reference New York, but it’s a start.

New York, New York.

xx,

WhyDid

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It has come to my attention that there are two very distinct times of year when a lot of hearts are broken and left shattered.  One of those times would be late spring, heading into summer- which is quite self explanatory (um, bikini clad beach babes?).  The other is right around this time of year during the holidays.  One would think that as the temperatures drop, you’d want a warm body to keep you company, but when you think about it, the holidays put quite a bit of pressure on relationships.  There are presents to be bought, families to be met, and trips to be taken.  During the make or break time in fledgling relationships, some will flourish while others will fail.  Don’t count your tears though… count the dollars you’ll be saving by not buying that bum a gift!

While some studies suggest a good cry isn’t healthy, I like to wallow in my pain.  So if you’re an emotional cutter like me, here’s a playlist that will help you do just that.

Check out time is noon.

xx,

WhyDid

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Since this weekend is clearly all about LOVE, I went ahead and channeled my 6th grade self by making a love song “mixtape.”  Come on, tell me you don’t remember making “tapes” for your crush.  No?  CD’s? Man I’m old…

Anyway, allow yourself to get into the mood with these sweet, sweet love songs.

Gotta go. My pager’s blowing up.

xx,

WhyDid

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Sticking with the swimsuit theme…

Recently, the lovely Kate Hudson was photographed catching some rays in an itsy bitsy teeny bikini and a big ol’ baby bump.   She isn’t the first (Bethenny Frankel, Alicia Keys) and I’m fairly certain she won’t be the last.  I mean, I don’t really know what the alternative would be other than hiding under a tent and awning or timing your pregnancy so as to miss the hot summer months.  A one piece or a tankini would just make you look even larger.  So, I guess a teeny ‘kini is the only option. Pregnancy is a beautiful and natural thing, I’m just not sure I would want to bare my baby on board.

Is a baby bump + a bikini beautiful or bogus?

xx,

WhyDid

photo via USmagazine.com

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