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WhyDid Wisdom: Shut Yo Mouth.

By Kirsten|September 9th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

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Have you ever been minding your own business when someone came out of nowhere and told you what to do?

A gentleman once informed my girlfriend when she was just wearing her sunglasses and trying to cross the street that it was not, in fact, sunny. She looked at him baffled. “I mean, well thank you, sir. I wasn’t aware that the well being of my pupils lied in your hands. I do, however, appreciate your concern.”

I understand the general comments like, “Your shoe’s untied” or “You’ve got something on your bum” but what about these unnecessary bits of advice? Are they necessary? Probs not.

On the other hand, my bf was manning the Gilt City Sprinkles cupcake truck, when he saw a man give his dog a CHOCOLATE cupcake. That’s right, chocolate. You know, the kind that kills dogs when they eat it. Anyway, he was concerned (as any normal animal lover would be) that the dog was going to die on the spot after ingesting such large quantities of cocoa. So, he said to the man that dogs are not supposed to eat chocolate. What did the man do? He gave a death stare and turned and walked away. I pray that poor pooch made it through the night and then packed his bones and left home.

So when is it okay to give advice and when should you keep your mouth shut? Remember the episode of Sex and the City where Carrie’s friend, Susan Sharon, asks for advice about whether or not to divorce her husband? It’s one of those tricky situations where you lose no matter what you say.

My vote? Unless your friend has spinach in her teeth or is about to fall down a manhole, it’s probably best to keep your mouth shut with the unnecessary commentary.

xx,

WhyDid

WhyDid Wisdom: I Pity the Fool

By Kirsten|September 7th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

Do you remember when Jessica Simpson attempted making “dumb” look cute (Newlyweds ring a bell)? Remember what that did to her “career”? Yeah, about that… I never particularly cared for Ms. Simpson to begin with, but after watching her question whether tuna was, in fact, chicken or fish, I hit my limit. I’m not sure when girls thought that being “ditzy” equated to being darling, but I’m going to need it to stop. So, I’m here to disspell the rumor that being anything but brilliant is attractive. I’m not saying we need to split atoms and cure cancer (though that would be pretty bad ass), but I am saying that beauty mixed with brains will get you much further than any helpless act. Here’s a list of ten things that any savvy chick should know how to do (and how to do them):

Smart is the new pretty.

xx,

WhyDid

You Make Me Wanna Snoop

By Kirsten|September 2nd, 2010|Why Did You Date Him?|

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In reference to last week’s post about the woman who had never seen her boyfriend’s house, I wanted to re-visit the topic of snooping. To me, it is baffling that this woman would not have done a little legwork to try and discover what the heck this guy was hiding. When I start dating someone, I already know what his favorite pastimes are, his mother’s maiden name, and, of course, what his ex looks like. Needless to say, I don’t really like surprises.

Most of you assumed that the gentleman in question was obviously living with his wife or girlfriend. I tend to agree. This leads me to one of two conclusions: either he’s a really good liar, or she is just really effing stupid.

Since I have a hard time believing that anyone is that great of a liar, I wonder if this woman is missing the “woman’s intuition” gene. As women, we generally know when something in the milk ain’t clean. Why, oh why did her antennae not go up? I would be a liar to say that I have not done some hardcore PI work in my day. I am so good at digging up dirt, that sometimes, my friends have asked for my assistance and have suggested that, perhaps, I missed my calling.

Even the trickiest of the tricky could not dupe me (I’m talking to you, Mr. I Saved My Mistress as My Brother in my Phone). While, I like to know what’s going on, some have argued that snooping is the equivalent of opening Pandora’s box. What happens when you scroll through your man’s phone and don’t find anything… this time? Now you’ve started a habit and trust me, it’s not an easy one to break. My only defense for snooping is that when you feel like something’s up, you’re probably right. My instincts have never steered me wrong. If you need the proof, then you may have to snoop- just be ready for what you might find.

After being in a healthy relationship, I have not felt the need to snoop or check texts or emails, which further validates my “woman’s intuition” theory. Sometimes, I think people who don’t look are scared of what they might find and are really just turning their heads. What do you think?

In most cases, when the urge to snoop comes about… it’s probably time to re-evaluate the relationship. Whether you find something or not, you’re on a one way track to an unhealthy relationship. Run for your life!

xx,

WhyDid

WhyDid Wisdom: Penny Pincher

By Kirsten|August 26th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

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Oh it sure is hard to budget those bills as a fashionista. Sometimes our desire for the latest trend outweighs the urgency of paying that pesky electric bill. Sigh… Life’s hard.

So our interns were discussing that they had signed up for a site called Mint.com and were receiving emails scolding them for going over their budgets. This sounded incredibly intriguing so I went ahead and took my pretty little fingers and typed in the URL. Here is where I landed:

With the click of a few buttons, Mint walks you through adding in your different bank accounts and credit cards. After all of that is entered, Mint takes a moment to go ahead and organize your numbers. A few calculations and TA-DA!! You can now see your debt versus your assets (Yikes!). With tools to help you save, set budgets, and meet goals, Mint will have your finances back on track in no time. You will get reminders when your account gets low or you have gone over your budget. There’s no lying to Mint.

To say this site is eye opening is an understatement. My net worth? Sad. Sad, sad net worth.

The days of balancing checkbooks are long gone, but that’s no reason to be going into debt. All savvy girls should have a handle on their finances. Because overdrafts, bounced checks and ,snipped credit cards are never in style.

xx,

WhyDid

What Are You Hiding?

By Kirsten|August 25th, 2010|Why Did You Date Him?|

Yesterday on the drive to work, we tuned into the Ryan Seacrest show. The topic for this particular morning was a woman who had been dating a man for over a year and had yet to ever see his home. Um? He told her that he was fixing it up and remodeling it but did not want her to see it until it was totally perfect. Um?

They tried to trick him by calling and telling him he’d won free flowers and they could send the flowers to anyone he’d like. He requested to have them sent to the girl who called in with her concerns. Hm… So what was going on?

I mean, Ryan almost lost his %^&$ on this guy and I was right there with him. It just doesn’t make any sense as to why his “girlfriend” would not be permitted to see his home. It’s been over a YEAR. The gentleman insisted that he is just a very “private” person. Why this young lady was tolerating the situation is so far beyond me. Not only would I have not been okay with this, my antennas would have gone up. Does she have no access to a computer? A little internet stalking sure would do her some good. A couple swipes through Google, Twitter, and Facebook and she would have cracked the case by now. If all else failed, why would she not have just followed him “home” one day?

After a bit, Ryan opened up the phone lines to take some calls from listeners. One guy called in and said that obviously the man is cheating. Another woman called to say she had been through something very similar and lo and behold, the man was married. Finally, another woman called in and said she was in the SAME situation and that it was totally okay. What? %*^$!!??

This got me to wondering WHY on earth women tolerate such things? How desperate must you be to accept such crappy excuses? What do you guys think?

My vote? He’s a sociopath who lives in a meth lab with his mother and wife (which is obviously totally normal).

xx,

WhyDid

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