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The List: Volume, Oh, Who the Hell Knows?

By |January 28th, 2017|The List|

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When I was little, there was no limit to the amount of time I could spend in a bookstore.  I think I’ve always had more books than I’ve had friends.  A shy girl with a freckled round face and long golden hair, hardly recognizable today.  Tucking myself behind my mother when met with a stranger, I felt even safer hidden behind the cover of a book.

My face has since slimmed, my hair grown darker, freckles only evident in the summer sun.  Though it’s not likely one could pin me from a baby photo alone, there is one thing that never changed even after decades; the safety and solace of losing myself in a story.

Much like my intuition with people, I can tell quite quickly whether a book and I will bond or if I’ll merely grow bored.  And just like their human counterparts, I’ve never given up on a book– even when it’s been utterly rotten.  All chapters read, all pages turned in hopes of being pleasantly proven wrong.

And then there are those books that touch you almost immediately upon opening.  You feel as if the words could have even been your own.  The books that move you, change you, leave you wanting more.  There have been times when I’ve grown more attached to characters in a book than I have a lover.  Those are the books you never want to end.  So you read slowly, deliberately savoring each detail as if you will never be able to go back and open it again.

The End is such a bittersweet way to say, “goodbye.”

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 (Note: this isn’t a list of my favorite books- though some of them are- this is a list of books I read in the past year that impacted me and came to me like pieces of a puzzle)

  1. The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth, M. Scott Peck
  2. The Unbearable Lightness of Being: A Novel, Milan Kundera
  3. The Doors of Perception and Heaven and Hell, Aldous Huxley
  4. How Should a Person Be?: A Novel from Life, Sheila Heti
  5. Franny and Zooey, J.D. Salinger
  6. He’s Scared, She’s Scared: Understanding the Hidden Fears That Sabotage Your Relationships, Steven Carter and Julia Sokol
  7. Just Kids, Patti Smith
  8. The Secret Garden, Frances Hodgson Burnett
  9. The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity, Jeremy P. Tarcher
  10. What We Talk About When We Talk About Love: Stories, Raymond Carver

WhyDid Wisdom: Secret Garden

By |April 28th, 2011|WhyDid Wisdom|

If someone had told me a year ago what my life would be like today, I would have laughed in his face.

My Wednesday nights a year ago consisted of me sashaying out of my West Village apartment (navigating those cobblestones in heels) over to SL or Avenue or the likes to meet my friends.

While I do miss shimmying to loud music while sipping on firelit bottles of champagne, staying in, making dinner, and working on the couch with my fiance also isn’t bad.  Unfortunately, there’s no need for five inch heels or sequin minis, but they remain in my closet as memories, if nothing else.

When we found out we’d be moving out of a busy “city” to the suburbs, we were a bit hesitant.  Neither of us had lived outside of a major city for years.  Now, my dad (the civil engineer) will point out that I don’t actually live in the suburbs, but rather an “urban sprawl.”  Either way, it’s a definite change of pace.  Rather than streets lined with boutiques and restaurants, our streets are stretches of strip malls as far as the eye can see.

It’s not all bad though.  Rather than being bored out of my mind like I’d imagined, I’ve actually found that I spend far less time watching TV and surfing the web. I spent a few weekends lacquering the garden table and chairs set and found the hobby quite productive. Some of that can be accredited to a new job and my desire to create the perfect “nest.”  The other part is in thanks to my newfound hobby.  That’s right. I got a hobby.  Gardening.

When we looked at our house, I knew I wanted to live there because it is A). awesome and B). surrounded by amazing gardens.  Every single room in the house opens up to flowers and greens.  It’s my own little “Secret Garden.”  So, I quickly found that I enjoyed being outside and gardening.  It sounds absolutely ridiculous, even to me.  I thought it had to do with watching too many re-runs of Golden Girls, but my mom attributes it to my English blood.  The only “secret garden” I had known until now was the Soho House rooftop.

But alas, this is a great and very therapeutic hobby.  If I feel like picking at something or letting off a little steam, rather than bother my fiance or the dog, I just head outside and rip out some weeds.  Now, before you get all gung-ho and head out to the yard, here’s a few things you should know:

  1. Here’s rule number one.  If you don’t like bugs (like abhor them) you will not like gardening.  There’s a lot of dirt and a lot of bugs (and worms).  No getting around that.  Sorry.
  2. Your nails and gardening do not really go together.  If you value your fingernails more than your flowerbeds, quit now.  Even with those gloves, the earth will wreak havoc on your perfectly polished fingers.
  3. Do a little research.  Figure out what grows in your climate.  Either ask someone at the flower/plant store or just read the handy little tags on the plants.  They will tell you everything you need to know.
  4. Your significant other will support your hobby more if you plant things that produce useful bi-products, ie., fruit, vegetables, mint (for mojitos, obviously).
  5. Wear sunscreen.  You might not realize it, but you are getting beaten down on by UV rays.  I can speak from experience.  I have a sweet tank top tan/burn line. So hot.

Now let’s take a gander at one of the flower beds I’ve been working on:

Okay, yes, I understand you were expecting an HGTV Yard Crashers type of reveal, but let’s talk again in a couple of months and after a few gallons of Miracle Grow.  I have planted my mom’s favorite flowers (Impatients), some African Daises, Heather, two species of bluberry plants (apparently they must be cross pollinated), a mini tangerine tree, and a cherry tree. Impressed? I can’t take all the credit though.

My faithful assistant had a paw (or four) in this.

xx,

WhyDid

Weekend Playlist: Easy, Breezy, Beautiful

By |April 9th, 2011|Weekend Playlist|

The past few weekends (not to mention weeks) have been insanely hectic.  So, this weekend, I’m beyond thrilled to be taking it easy and doing a whole lot of nothing.  The weather is getting nicer (not nice, but nicer) and we have a beautiful back/side/front/court yard to gaze at.  Basically, we are surrounded by green and beautiful smelling flowers.  It’s like living in my own childhood dream of The Secret Garden (more on that later).  Anyway, what’s better than opening up the doors and letting a little fresh air in and just relaxing with friends and good music?  Okay, maybe a glass of sangria.

  1. Broken Bells– October
  2. Modest Mouse– Ocean Breathes Salty
  3. Santigold– Shove It
  4. Jason Collett– Lake Superior
  5. Foster the People– Pumped Up Kicks
  6. Sneaker Pimps– 6 Underground
  7. Dev & The Cataracs– Bass Down Low
  8. Yeasayer– O.N.E.
  9. The xx– Crystalised
  10. Tiesto (feat. Tegan & Sara)– Feel It In My Bones

have a beautiful weekend.

xx,

WhyDid

Photo via our backyard