Apr
17
2014
0


WhyDid Wisdom: Release Party
Written by: WhyDid | WhyDid Wisdom

post ranch innJanuary is the time of year when everyone fools his/herself into thinking he/she are going to right wrongs, fix all flaws and become a whole new “me.”  The gym is suddenly full of soft bodies that hadn’t bothered to lift more than the remote for the last year, but are now walking on the treadmill so slow it’s giving me anxiety because I have to wait.  (Patience, that’s something I should have signed up for in 2014).  Don’t get me wrong.  I’m all for self improvement.  It’s the only way to grow, but it’s now four months later and we seem to have ditched all of our goals for the new year, but yet have managed to hold onto a lot of other baggage.  Why is it so much easier to let go of the good and not the bad?

We swore we’d lose that extra five pounds by summer, but those nachos at Cowgirl were just too damn tempting and so what if I had three cheat days this week?  Despite the return of the polar vortex, spring will last but a week before a sweaty, scorching summer sets in upon us and no one will be able to hide out under baggy black clothes and layers upon layers.  This is the second time of year when Equinox sees an influx of gymnasium delinquents and I have a near meltdown upon waiting for a stairclimber.  Despite my disdain for faux fitness junkies, I’m a proponent for good health in any form… even if temporary.  And like the mantra emblazoned upon the wall at Flex Studios, “Physical fitness is the first requisite of happiness,” there is another kind of weightloss that may be even more beneficial to your health and heart.

We cut dairy out of our diets, but continue on with toxic relationships.  We purge our closets, but forget to purge our personal lives.  Sometimes we hold onto people because we feel an obligation to do so.  However, in doing so, we impede our own personal growth and crowd our lives with emotional clutter that blocks anything new and quite possibly better from entering.  In turn, this might be the real type of fat that is weighing down our lives.

I kept saying I wanted this or I wanted that.  All around me, others were moving forward with careers, relationships, families, and goals, yet I seemed to be stagnant.  I couldn’t figure out why I was being left behind by normal social standards and then I realized something.  My actions were contradicting my wishes.  For example, I was in a very volatile relationship for most of the past year and after one too many early morning blow outs and a “vacation” from hell, I finally threw in the towel.  While I had long since stopped answering phone calls and late night incoherent text messages, I was still friends with some of his friends and I was still checking in to see what he was doing. It was far too easy to see what he and his new 18 year old NYU dorm habitating honey were doing and really, why did (or should) I care?  I would gut check myself against what I wanted in a mate versus what I was getting from this relationship and rationally knew it was far from matching up at which point I had to actually say to myself, “Who gives a (expletive)?”  I’m romantic and nostalgic so I find it grueling to cut ties at times.  I am capable of seeing what “could be” rather than what IS.  Sadly, some people are emotional vampires and as hard as it may be, we have to wish them well and part ways.

And maybe sometimes it’s not a specific person that has to be eliminated from our lives, but maybe something that someone has done to us.  We all make mistakes (even me), but there is no use in holding onto difficult and at times traumatizing events from our lives.

A friend of mine who is an up and coming star on the music scene spoke to me about what gives him motivation.  His son was, of course, first on the list along with close friends and family.  But then he told me that the naysayers and haters fueled him.  I reminded him that those people did not deserve his energy and the more time he spent thinking about them, the more of his energy he was allotting to people who, quite frankly, did not deserve it.  The more time spent focusing on your foes, the more you are actually feeding them.  I suggested he only give pieces of himself to people who deserve and appreciate him and to (bleep) the rest of them.  I’m not sure I swayed him to my way of thinking, but sometimes it’s helpful to remind myself of the same thing.

It may be a late start, but too late is always better than never.  Shed those extra five pounds and shed those extra people who are weighing down your health and your heart.

xx,

WhyDid

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Apr
15
2014
3


How To Tuesday: Hop, Hop, Hop.

lace bunny earsBefore my nickname was “Turtle” it was Kiki B- B first standing for Bendel, later for bunny.  Not sure if the second iteration has more to do with me actually looking like a rabbit or my proclivity for falling down hypothetical rabbit holes.  In any case, I once required guests at my birthday party to parade around downtown in darling little bunny ears.  Birthdays are great excuses for props… as are brunches.  And wouldn’t you know, Easter is coming up and that’s prime brunching time.  What better way to add a little fun to your Easter brunch than with some stylish lace bunny ears for you and your guests?

Pro tip: You can also create lace cat ears with the same technique (which I made for my special video guest, Bud).

xx,

WhyDid

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Apr
15
2014
0


Setting the Mood: The Softer Side of Spring
Written by: WhyDid | Setting the Mood

pastelThis Sunday, the Easter Bunny will come to town and bestow upon us lots of calories we probably never needed, but will enjoy every moment intaking them.  With him comes Easter bonnets and pretty pastels which also happen to be one of this spring’s biggest trends.  So, whether you celebrate Easter or Passover… or you’re just in it for the Cadbury eggs, pastel is a perfect way to usher in this very stubborn spring.

pastel accessoriesLulu Frost Gold Plated Swarovski Crystal NecklaceAlexander Wang Antonia Snake Effect Leather SandalsMarc by Marc Jacobs Katie Bunny Silicone iPhone 5 CoverSee by Chloé Daisy Leather Shoulder Bag

xx,

WhyDid

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Apr
11
2014
0


Friday Frocks: Festival Friendly

gypsyThe dress code at Coachella is basically the opposite of the Meatpacking District on a Saturday night.  That’s right, ladies.  Leave your skin tight bandage dresses in the closet… better yet your donation pile.  For an outdoor music festival it’s best to be in something loose and free flowing- something that doesn’t require platform pumps as an accessory.  Why not opt for a frock sure to set your gypsy soul free, even if you aren’t hanging in the desert this weekend.

coachella-dresses1. For Love & Lemons Festival Dress, 2. LOVESHACKFANCY Essential Tie Dye Halter Mini Dress, 3. Anna Sui Morning Glory Cotton and Silk Blend Mini Dress, 4. VAVA by Joy Han Libby Dress, 5. Cleobella Nora Dress, 6. Free People Bib Dress, 7. Free People Relaxed Tired Ruffle Dress, 8. Show Me Your Mumu Bachelorette Dress, 9. Anna Sui Printed Silk Blend Chiffon Mini Dress, 10. Tiare Hawaii Banyan Scoop Back Mini Dress

xx,

WhyDid

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Apr
10
2014
1


Why Did You Wear That: No-chella

kirsten smith coachellaIf you live in New York you are in one of two camps: the ones who boarded Palm Springs bound planes for a wild weekend at Coachella or the rest of us who plan to stay put and enjoy the little bit of sunshine that’s finally been bestowed upon us.  I fall into the second camp and am pretty okay with that.  As mentioned, as much as I love a live show, being part of a commercialized and overcrowded concert series gives me the heebie jeebies.  I do, however, love the opportunity to tap into my inner flower child from time to time and fortunately, my mom was smart enough to hold onto a few of her favorite pieces and pass them along to me.  Smart and pretty.

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kirsten smith coachellasunglasses: Stella McCartney, sweater: Staring at Stars, top: vintage (thanks, mom!), jeans: Odyn, shoes: Charles David, bracelets: Kenneth Jay Lane, bag: vintage Dooney & Bourke

xx,

WhyDid

 

photos by Kate Alex

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