Why Did You Wear That: Post Traumatic Stress, or Lack Thereof

By |December 5th, 2013|Personal Style, Why Did You Wear That?|

Kirsten SmithSpeaking of evolution, it’s amazing what a difference a year can make.  Cliché?  Yes.  True?  Also yes.  After having scraped myself from my father’s couch and moving back to New York last year, I was ready to put my shattered life back together piece by painful piece.  I had moved back to my old neighborhood (literally across the street from my old apartment), reconnected with my New York friends who hadn’t fled the city for life in suburban wedded bliss, and put my feelers out for new career opportunities and love interests- though only half heartedly on the latter.

I hadn’t been back to California since leaving that last time.  I mean, it’s a long flight, plus I wasn’t sure how I’d feel  about being back there.  However, my dad was long overdue for a visit and the way the weather was looking on the east coast, I was happy to suffer through a five hour flight for a stint in the sunshine.  Upon landing in LA, I immediately felt a bittersweet nostalgia.  Driving through familiar streets in Silicon Valley, I felt eery familiarity and the memories of my past came creeping back.

Kirsten SmithFortunately, I have a friend who is the kind of friend everyone should wish for.  She’s the “ride or die” type and the moment she got my sobbing phone call that I would be moving out of the home I shared with my ex, she was quite literally on a plane to come and help with the heavy lifting and to lift my heavy heart.  Her name is Katie and you may remember her.  Upon arriving at said residence, my ex had been so “kind” as to have already packed all of my belongings (well, everything he didn’t try and pilfer) and arrange them conveniently at the front door.  Talk about adding insult to injury.  But on the brightside, this gave us more time to spend together chatting rather than packing.  Katie having never done so, we hopped in her rental and took a ride down the PCH.  Remembering a must see recommendation from a pal Katie had made on the plane (she’s always making friends), we stopped somewhere along Big Sur at a place called Post Ranch Inn where we dined while taking in the views at Sierra Mar.  The views are quite literally breathtaking and those with acrophobia may want to refrain from venturing out onto the balconies.  I was so happy to be in such beautiful surroundings with my beautiful friend, but halfway through my second glass of prosecco, I broke down into tears.

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kirsten smithI wanted to share this place with people who love me unconditionally and make new memories that were joyful not jaded.  My middle brother, Andy and my dad are two men I know I can always count on besides Smitty and I wanted to take them somewhere I loved.  We hopped in Dick’s tiny sportscar (I generously relinquished shotgun and crammed myself into the backseat) and off we went down the windy PCH on our way back to Post Ranch Inn, stopping intermittently to snap photos at scenic overlooks.  Ironically enough, we were seated at the exact same table where Katie and I sat the year before.  This year, however, I didn’t cry into my garden green salad.  I guess that’s the thing about bad memories, sometimes you just have to face them, make new ones, and move on.

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kirsten smithtop: Free People (similar-and on sale-here), bralette: Victoria’s Secret, pants: 7 for All Mankind, boots: All Saints (similar here), bag: Balenciaga, jacket: Andrew Marc

Don’t worry, I didn’t jump.



photographs by Andrew Smith (my middle big brother- who you should also follow on Instagram)

Why Did You Wear That: Stopping Short

By |April 3rd, 2012|Why Did You Wear That?|

celebrities crop topsThis past weekend, three of Tinsletown’s loveliest ladies were all seen sporting a little bit of bare midriff while walking the red (err… orange?) carpet.  This bit of belly is different from the crop tops of a couple summers past.  It’s not so much belly button as it is rib cage.  It’s the teeniest little peek-a-boo of skin that is both sexy and playful.  It’s less Christina Aguilera Genie in a Bottle and a bit more Gidget Goes Hawaiian.  And for anyone who was ever a bit self conscious about showing some torso, don’t worry.  This is much more wearable and will keep that fearsome FUPA under wraps.

cropped bustier tops1. Missoni Elsa Cropped Crochet Knit Top, $530, 2. FP New Romantics Woven Bustier, $78, 3. Material Girl Bustier, $29, 4. Dolce & Gabbana Chili Pepper Print Cotton Bustier, $1000, 5. MinkPink Support Group Bustier, $35, 6. Mara Hoffman Embroidered Bustier Top, $207, 7. Topshop Petite Cutout Swan Bralet, $52, 8. Smith Denim Bustier, $80, 9. Free People Kiki Top, $78, 10. SO Dot Convertible Mini Bustier, $14.99

While some are referring to these as “bralettes” that’s not quite the right term.  (Did I not already school you in bralettes?).  I would consider these to be cropped bustier tops.  You’ll have much more luck when searching using those terms.  The trick to this look is pairing your teeny top with a high waisted skirt or slacks.  That way your outfit will read “le petite coquette” rather than “big dirty whore.”

crop top high waist skirtcrop top: Free People Vegan Leather Bustier, $78, high waist: Pleasure Doing Business Bandage Seam Striped Skirt, $165



Gift Guide: A PG-13 Rated Valentine’s Day

By |February 7th, 2012|Gift Guide|

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Alright, so the man has warranted more than just a drink at the Standard before you move on and meet up with your friends (in hopes of meeting someone better).  Lucky dog!  Your relationship is probably past a peck on the lips, but perhaps nothing too intimate has occurred…yet.  So, he should be aware that you are worthy of far more than the run of the mill red and mundane roses or -gasp- carnations.  There is a very fine line between tasteful and trite.  Let’s help him out in the gift giving department… I mean, he was doing so well…

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1. Stella McCartney Sam Partying Stretch Silk Satin Playsuit, $195, 2.Urban Decay Pocket Rocket Lipgloss in Colin, $19, 3. Voluspa Boxed Votive in Crisp Champagne, $7, 4.  3.1 Philip Lim Chiffon Knicker Pants, $843.1 Philip Lim Chiffon Bralette, $84, 5. Kate Spade New York Idiom Meet Your Match Bangle, $58, 6. Ettika Rose Gold Bangle, $36, 7.Benefit Bathina Take a Picture It Will Last Longer Body Balm, $28, 8. Jenny Packham Two Tone Silk-Satin Kimono, $1,145 



Why Did You Wear That: Orange You Glad

By |November 24th, 2011|Personal Style, Why Did You Wear That?|

Normally I would never mix bright orange with anything black so as to avoid looking like a Halloween reject… Not to mention my highschool colors were actually black and orange (Go Cadets!).  However, I really liked the way this orange- or as I like to call it persimmon- looked with the black acid wash of these jeans and was only accented by adding bold gold accessories.

Sure, this look probably isn’t for everyone… or everyday (and no, I’m not wearing it to Thanksgiving dinner), but it brought out my inner hip hop loving fly girl and it kind of just made me want to dance– but what doesn’t?  Wanna join my dance party?  Here’s how to recreate the look:

1. Kain Scoop Neck Pocket Tank, $49.99, 2. Forever21 Skinny Acid Wash Jeans, $27.80, 3. Only Hearts Lace Bralette, $48, 4. Erica Anenberg Crystal Chunk Ring, $145, 5. Erica Anenberg True Gold Twosome Ring, $80, 6. Alexander McQueen Faithful Bootie, $787.99, 7. D&G Abigail 5 Row Necklace, $195



Why Did You Wear That: Erin Go Bra

By |March 17th, 2011|Why Did You Wear That?|

Roberto Cavalli Feather Print Jersey Push Up Bra, $240

As much as I love a good theme party, I despise themed clothing on holidays.  Sorry, I just do.  I especially despise it after the age of twelve.  Needless to say I’m not wearing green today.  Pinch me. I dare you. Anyway, I’m not a complete curmudgeon.  So, in celebration of the Irish (they’re great people afterall: potatoes, Guinness, folklore), there’s a little Irish phrase, “erin go bragh” that essentially translates into “Ireland Forever.”  I’ve gone ahead and translated it into brassieres and done a little erin go bra-ing of my own.  Because if there is one thing I do love, it’s lingerie.  This is about as festive as I’ll get.  Take what you can get, lasses.


1. La Perla Feuillage Tulle Triangle Bra, $590, 2. Eberjey Delirious Triangle Bra, $36, 3. Free People Scandalous Bandeau, $28, 4. Fleur of England Tease Front Tie Boudoir Bra, $94.80, 5. Chantelle Romance Demi Bra, $108, 6. Myla Push Up Bra, $128, 7. Princesse Tam Tam Mademoiselle Underwire Bra, $70, 8. Eberjey Fireworks Bralette, $41

Top o’ the mornin’!