Why Did You Date Him: Hide and Seek

By |February 24th, 2011|Why Did You Date Him?|

It always seems that the people who are looking the hardest for love are the ones without it.  Seems unfair, but I suppose that’s just the way the cookie crumbles.  Maybe it’s because they seem desperate.  Maybe it’s because they are looking so hard they can’t see what’s right in front of their face.  Whatever the case may be, they are unable to find love.

I won’t disclose all the details (I’ll save that for my novel), but let’s just say that I found true love in a very unexpected fashion.  A little over a year ago, I had been coping with the aftermath of a gut wrenching breakup by going out a lot and dating several different boys without the intent of committing to any of them.  I had sworn off marriage altogether and decided that living in a beach shack with my beautiful adopted children and pets would be just fine.

And then a funny thing happened. I needed help with a project and a girlfriend of mine put me in touch with a former colleague who she’d remained friendly with.  From the first email, there was a connection.  I looked forward to each and every one of his email exchanges more than an episode of Gossip Girl.  While they had started as formal and work related, they turned into hilariously quick back and forth banter that I’d never shared with anyone before.  One of my friends called it early on, but I refused to admit that I’d met my match.

I fought it the entire time.  I had four million different reasons why it couldn’t be. He wasn’t even remotely my “type.” He lived across the country.  He couldn’t possibly like me…  He was my mirror image and he was exactly what I needed.  I raised my white flag and finally surrendered to the love that had been there all along.

My point is this.  Once you come to terms with yourself and the possibility of being alone, you’re more likely to be open to someone else.  Perhaps when you are looking so hard for love, you force things that aren’t meant to be.  You may even settle for someone who is only “eh” rather than “AH!”  Sometimes people are so scared of being alone that they accept behavior and people who aren’t worthy.  You can’t find love.  Love can only find you and you’ve got to be ready and willing when it knocks on your door.  It may very well show up looking a bit different than you’d imagined, but it’s love all the same.

Those that go searching for love, only manifest their own loveless ness. And the loveless never find love, only the loving find love. And they never have to seek for it. -D.H. Lawrence



Monday Mashup: XOXO

By |February 22nd, 2011|Monday Mashup|

Hey Upper East Siders, this just in.  S may very well have her own doppelganger.  Seems a certain Aussie actress looks awfully similar to our sweet Serena especially when they strike this “over the shoulder” pose in slinky LBD’s.  With the same golden locks, perfectly peachy skin, and ould Teresa Palmer be voted next year’s sexiest woman alive? You be the judge.



Monday Mashup: Pretty Boy Brawl

By |December 13th, 2010|Monday Mashup|

So apparently, Zac Efron and Vanessa Hudgens split today. To be quite honest, it’s sad, but not surprising, right? They were together for four years and they are both young and hot. So as these Hollywood things go, their expiration date was upon us.

Well, in my opinion, Zac is a poor man’s Chace Crawford.  This may have something to do with the fact that I never saw Highschool Musical, but am glued to the screen every Monday Night to check in with my favorite Upper East Siders… So, Vanessa, perhaps it’s time for an upgrade.



Monday Mashup: Sexiest Woman Alive?

By |November 1st, 2010|Monday Mashup|

Recently, Minka Kelly was named Esquire’s Sexiest Woman Alive, but we suspect someone else could have easily been in the running with her. Gossip Girl’s Leighton Meester shares a striking resemblance to the brunette bombshell. Maybe there should have been a tie? What do you think?



Why Did You Wear That: Taylor Momsen

By |October 22nd, 2010|Celebrity Style|

Yikes….Here’s Taylor Momsen while performing with her band, Pretty Reckless, on Thursday night for the Paper Magazine/Express fashion show afterparty. I mean, is she practicing for Halloween? Tay Tay, it’s another week away… but you do look totally spooky. Come to think of it… thanks for the Halloween costume idea.

I have a hard time believing this guitar smashing girl is only seventeen years old. What do you suppose her mother thinks?

Granted, her outfits are a little over the edge… I must admit, she’s pretty freaking talented.