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Why Did You Date Him: If You Have to Ask…

By Kirsten|December 8th, 2010|Why Did or Why Don't?, Why Did You Date Him?|

I should be shot for admitting this… but the other day I was watching Married to Rock on E! (I know) and one of the women on the show- I believe her name is AJ- decided that it was time to take matters into her own hands. She is the only one on the show who is not officially “married” to rock. Apparently feeling left out, she hits the jeweler and picks out a rock for herself and starts to plan a grand proposal to her rocker love.

Um, I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news… but if you have to ask… you probably already know the answer. There is no reason that you should need to go out and buy your own ring (not to mention his) and essentially propose to yourself. If a man wants to marry you, he will.

By putting your man on the spot, you may end up with an unwanted outcome. We all know, most men would probably rather remove their own penises before having to tell you the awful truth. So, while he may say “yes” out of sheer horror, I fear that you may be in for your very own frightfest down the road when he realizes he doesn’t want to go through with it.

There are some gender roles that don’t need to be reversed. Just sayin…

So, would you propose to your man?

xx,

WhyDid

WhyDid Wisdom: Mind Your P’s and Q’s

By Kirsten|October 14th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

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So, recently, I seem to have ticked off a few people. Apparently, I had missed a very important memo in regards to the announcement of an engagement. So, I’m going to get my Emily Post on and highlight some important etiquette rules that might easily be overlooked and land you into hot water with friends and family.

Announcing an engagement– Be sure to inform both sets of parents first. Then announce to close family members (brothers and sisters) and close friends. No one wants to find out via Facebook or secondhand. Send out an engagement announcement instead.
Disconnect– Sure we all have high tech gadgets now, but when having dinner or visiting with friends, put down the phone. Unless you are an emergency room doctor, it can wait.
Send “Thank You” notes– Sure saying “thank you” is nice, but putting in the extra effort to write a hand written note really goes a long way. Email does not count.
Email etiquette (aka netiquette)– Don’t forget that emails can often be misinterpreted so be sure to refrain from discussing delicate topics via email. Also, do not forget that emails are permanent and can easily be forwarded. Choose your words wisely.
Come bearing gifts– When invited to someone’s home, always bring a gift (even if it’s something silly or small). It shows that you appreciate the invitation.
Table manners– You would think this would be a given, but apparently it’s not. Don’t chew with your mouth open (breathe through your nose, folks). Don’t smack your food, slurp your food, or clang your utensils to your mouth.
Make an introduction– I can’t tell you how many times people have gotten themselves into trouble by not introducing friends or acquaintances to one another. It gives the impression that you either forgot one of their names or are hiding something.
Hats off– know when it is appropriate to have on a hat. Baseball game- yes. Dinner table- no.
When in doubt, ask– If you aren’t sure of something, it is always better to ask for clarification sooner than later. You aren’t sure of the dress code? Ask. You don’t know what to buy? Ask.