WhyDid Wisdom: Mind Your P’s and Q’s

By |October 14th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|


So, recently, I seem to have ticked off a few people. Apparently, I had missed a very important memo in regards to the announcement of an engagement. So, I’m going to get my Emily Post on and highlight some important etiquette rules that might easily be overlooked and land you into hot water with friends and family.

  • Announcing an engagement– Be sure to inform both sets of parents first. Then announce to close family members (brothers and sisters) and close friends. No one wants to find out via Facebook or secondhand. Send out an engagement announcement instead.
  • Disconnect– Sure we all have high tech gadgets now, but when having dinner or visiting with friends, put down the phone. Unless you are an emergency room doctor, it can wait.
  • Send “Thank You” notes– Sure saying “thank you” is nice, but putting in the extra effort to write a hand written note really goes a long way. Email does not count.
  • Email etiquette (aka netiquette)– Don’t forget that emails can often be misinterpreted so be sure to refrain from discussing delicate topics via email. Also, do not forget that emails are permanent and can easily be forwarded. Choose your words wisely.
  • Come bearing gifts– When invited to someone’s home, always bring a gift (even if it’s something silly or small). It shows that you appreciate the invitation.
  • Table manners– You would think this would be a given, but apparently it’s not. Don’t chew with your mouth open (breathe through your nose, folks). Don’t smack your food, slurp your food, or clang your utensils to your mouth.
  • Make an introduction– I can’t tell you how many times people have gotten themselves into trouble by not introducing friends or acquaintances to one another. It gives the impression that you either forgot one of their names or are hiding something.
  • Hats off– know when it is appropriate to have on a hat. Baseball game- yes. Dinner table- no.
  • When in doubt, ask– If you aren’t sure of something, it is always better to ask for clarification sooner than later. You aren’t sure of the dress code? Ask. You don’t know what to buy? Ask.

While I may be spending a little time in the dog house for now, hopefully I will keep you in good standings with family and friends.



WhyDid Wisdom: Please and Thank You.

By |December 23rd, 2008|Somethin for the fellas, WhyDid Wisdom|


It has come to my attention that people are incredibly… rude.

When did it become acceptable to not say, “please” or “thank you” or heaven forbid, hold the door for someone?

Maybe I’m just lucky because my parents raised me incredibly well, but I kind of think some of these tidbits of etiquette are just common sense, no? Perhaps you don’t know which fork goes with which course at dinner, but I bet you know to say “god bless you” after someone sneezes.

Do men no longer know that they should offer women their seat on the train rather than knocking them out of the way so they can sit their lazy butt down? We are wearing heels! And we carry heavy handbags! When is the last time you saw someone offer a pregnant woman their seat? A gentleman would let a lady take the first taxi, not curse her out for merely being on the same corner hailing a cab.

Manners go a long way in my book. Here are a few more pointers to keep in mind:

  • Cover your mouth when you cough, sneeze, or yawn. No one wants to see your molars.
  • Do not blow your nose in public. That’s just disgusting. Excuse yourself to the bathroom.
  • Be polite to waiters/waitresses and other service industry employees. They deserve the same respect as you.
  • Wash your hands after you use the restroom. This goes for you too, guys. Just because no one is watching doesn’t mean it’s okay to spread illness.
  • Don’t play “chicken” on the street. It’s okay to step to the side if someone is walking towards you on the street. Are you really in that big of a hurry? (Someone DESPERATELY needs to write a book on “Sidewalk Etiquette” by the way).
  • Save personal grooming for home. Ugh! I literally was sitting next to someone cleaning the gunk from under their nails today on the train. I nearly died.
  • Contain your children! Kids are cute and all, but goodness, keep them under control. Just because they’re small doesn’t mean they can run wild.
  • Don’t  use your phone at dinner. It’s so rude. How often do you see a table full of people ALL using their cell phones? Why did you even bother going to dinner with your friends if they are so boring you need to talk to someone else?
  • Don’t let the elevator doors slam on someone. I mean, really, is that extra 2 seconds of holding the door for someone to get on going to kill you?

So “please” try and keep these simple things in mind.  I swear, by making minor adjustments to your manners, you will notice a change in others. “Thank you.”