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Why Did You Date Him: Ayo Technology

By |April 1st, 2011|Why Did You Date Him?|

Oh, hello there. Yes, I’ve been MIA for a moment or two, but much like a boomerang, I always return.  This time with fun news to announce soon. Anyway, we return to our regularly scheduled program in 3, 2, 1…

With Facebook driving up divorce rates, it’s clear Granny is shaking her head somewhere and we have entered another realm of dating hell.  We are long gone from the days of sock hops, corsages, and soda fountains.  Forget about opening doors and sending flowers.  We’re doing dating 2.0 and it’s not your grandmother’s dating.

Nowadays you can log onto sites like Ashley Maddison that will help you orchestrate an affair and there are more dating websites than you can shake a stick at. However, you don’t even need to go to such extremes to find love on the web.  Using social platforms like Twitter and Facebook you can connect with just about anyone on the planet.  All you need is access to a computer (with warranty that covers laptop repairs in Ipswich so you don’t miss a moment with your potential true love), internet connection, and hungry loins.

I remember falling prey to creeps “trolling” the internet back in the early days of Myspace and Facebook (thank heavens for privacy settings!), but guys aren’t the only predators on the internet these days.  Many girls “tweet” and “poke” at boys who catch their eye.  A lot of females are very forward and outright pushy when pursuing the objects of their affection.  By being so “easy” and available to guys, women are simply making it that much harder on themselves.  See, the more you chase the less trouble fellas go to in order to woo you and win your heart.  Kiss hand written love letters and picnics in the park goodbye.

I’m fairly certain that the internet is ruining dating, relationships, and worst of all, chivalry.  Forget only a phone call away.  It’s become clear that people are just a few key strokes away.  Ask me out via Facebook, Twitter, email, or DailyBooth and watch how quickly you’re unfriended, unfollowed, or sitting alone listening to the sound of crickets.

Would you take a gamble on internet lovin’?

 

xx,

WhyDid

A Day of Silence: For Japan With Love

By |March 17th, 2011|WhyDid Wisdom|

Today a friend told me about something called For Japan With Love. I hadn’t heard anything about it, but as soon as I did, I was moved to take part in it.

So, rather than blog today about how obnoxious it is when people stand in the “walk” side of the escalator or why you’re stupid for staying with a cheater, I am taking a day of silence and calling you to action. We spend so much time worrying about such trivial matters in our own self obsessed lives that we never take a moment to think about others.  People who are suffering from real problems.  People who lost their lives, their homes, their loved ones.  People who lost everything.  They aren’t worried about what they are going to have for dinner.  They’re worried about where their next meal will come from.

In standard American form, we have tried to make this disaster all about us.  Yes, nuclear power is scary.  No, your yacht is not that important.  Japan doesn’t need you to design a bracelet for the victims of the earthquake.  They  need your prayers, your donations, your support.

Today, rather than worry about what you’re going to wear tonight or whether or not you should buy those new shoes, do something, anything, to help someone less fortunate.  Low on cash?  Donate clothing.  How much of that stuff shoved in the back of your closet do you really wear anyway?  Clothes I was planning to sell on Ebay, I’m donating.

Just because this problem doesn’t directly affect you, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care.  That iPad you’re reading this on?  Parts of that came from Japan.  The Toshiba TV you’re watching the Kardashians on? Their plant has been shut down.  The camera that took these pictures?  Japan.

While you spend today helping out Japan, don’t forget that this is an ongoing process. Think about those who are less fortunate and suffering not only today, but everyday.

xx,

WhyDid

Photos via The Big Picture

WhyDid Wisdom: When I was 18

By |March 10th, 2011|WhyDid Wisdom|

Last week my dad sent me this picture.  Why, yes, it is one of my senior pictures!  I think he likes this particular photo for three reasons.  1- I’m his daughter, 2- I’m wearing a jade necklace he brought me back from a business trip to China, 3- I look oh so very sweet, pure, and yet to be jaded (I didn’t even mean to make that joke… but let’s roll with it).  Looking at this photo got me to thinking about myself at the tender age of eighteen.  Gosh, I thought I knew it all.

See, I grew up with two older brothers.  And while it was always reassuring to know I had two built in body guards for any guy who dared to step out of line, sometimes I really wished I had had an older sister to walk me through the intricacies of womanhood.  Since I didn’t, I had to learn some things the (very) hard way. I’ve gathered a few things that I wish I’d known years ago.  Things that certainly would have saved me a lot of pain, suffering, and at times sheer embarrassment (um, like  my mom haircut?).  I’m passing them along in hopes that those without a big sister (and even those of you who have one) can benefit from my own personal learning curve.

  1. Your face should always match your neck.
  2. Money doesn’t grow on trees.  Learn to manage your own finances and never rely on someone else for that. The beauty of a savings account will far outweigh the beauty of those Louboutins.
  3. Your body will not always look like that.  Enjoy it (and your metabolism) while you can.
  4. By “enjoy your body” I do not by any means mean sexually.  Never feel as if you have to give it up to be liked.
  5. Pay attention in class.  I swear, one day you will wish you’d cared what happened in accounting.
  6. Girls who are mean to you are either jealous or incredibly insecure with themselves.  Ignore them.  They suck.  You don’t!
  7. Sadly, your parents are probably right more often than not.  You might think they are trying to ruin your “fun”, but we forget that our parents had some “fun” of their own when they were our age (I know- hard to believe) and are just looking out for us and hoping we don’t make the same mistakes.
  8. Stay OUT of the sun!  I can not believe some of you gals are still baking without UV protection let alone hopping in tanning beds.  You may look a bronze bunny now, but you’re gonna look like a weathered handbag in ten years.
  9. It’s great to be a pretty girl, but it’s even better to be a smart one.  Hell, if you’re both… more power to you!
  10. There will be other boys.  While your heart may feel like it’s quite literally lying in the middle of the freeway during rush hour traffic, I can promise you, that broken hearts do heal and there are other fish in the sea.

Whether you’re 18, 28 or 88, these are all great things to remind yourself from time to time.

xx,

WhyDid

Why Don’t You Write? Why Don’t You Call?

By |March 3rd, 2011|WhyDid Wisdom|

You never write.  You never call.

Sound familiar?  Probably something you’ve heard from mom or dad or maybe even grandma.  Our parents have had to give in to text messaging and joining Facebook just to keep tabs on us.  My entire family is now on Facebook and quite honestly, it’s frightening.  Remember when Facebook was simply a place for people with college email addresses?  Remember when you didn’t have to police your tagged photos? Anyway –not my point.

Our generation relies heavily on the internet and our cell phones.  I bet a lot of you can’t even go fifteen minutes without touching your iPhone/Blackberry. Go ahead, try it… I’ll wait.  While a lot of this is fantastic and we are lucky to have so much technology at our fingertips, we’ve kind of turned into blithering idiots.

Yes, yes, we know how to code and tag and blog and tweet.  Unfortunately, we can hardly compose a sentence anymore and I can’t even imagine what we would do without spellcheck.  Guys ask girls out via text message (lame) and people meet on Twitter (lamer).  No one knows how to even pick up the phone anymore (lamest). When did we become so technologically dependent?  Our grandparents would be appalled by our social etiquette (or lack thereof).  I don’t care if they have invented “netiquette.”  That is just a cop out word created to make us feel better about our social inadequacies.

customizable stationery from Paperless Post

Giving someone a Facebook “shoutout” on their birthday or a “Happy Thanksgiving” mass text during the holidays is just plain impersonal.  Send me a mass text, I dare you.  Newsflash: an e-mail does not = a letter.  Seriously, when is the last time you sent a hand written “thank you” note?  I’m surprised the paper industry is still in business!  We don’t even send out actual paper invitations anymore (unless we’re talking wedding- which is probably single handedly what’s keeping paper stores afloat).  Instead we send evites and Facebook event invitations.  What are we? Heathens?

An ex boyfriend once mailed me a card a month into dating to tell me how much he had enjoyed the past few weeks we’d spent together.  We lived in the same city, there was no need to actually mail me something, but the simple gesture won serious bonus points in my book.  (Step one in Bamboozle 101).  Sure, I said ex boyfriend, but I dated him for another 15 months after that darn card- so it counts for something.

Have you ever been into a stationery store?  It’s like fashion for paper!  Not sure why you wouldn’t take delight in designing your own stationery or picking out beautifully created notecards. OR if you’re really crafty, you could even make your own!

stationery from Retta Le Ritz

You have no idea how much it means to receive a handwritten note, or if you’re lucky, letter from someone.  I mean, how do you plan on scrapbooking an email?  So, I urge you to put down your phone.  Close your laptop.  And pick up a pen.  Perhaps this is one instance where going back in time could benefit us greatly.

xx,

WhyDid

WhyDid Wisdom: Read Between the Lines

By |March 2nd, 2011|WhyDid Wisdom|

Ugh… more brain rotting television… Why is there nothing on TV??!!  I have a solution for you… it may be a little crazy, but bear with me.  Ever thought about reading a book?  What a novel (no pun intended) idea.

I’m lucky I grew up in a “reading” household.  My parents read to me as a child. They also encouraged me to love reading.  You could say I have an active imagination so, reading a book and building the characters and their surroundings in my head was the perfect way to exercise my cute little pre-adolescent brain.

My three favorite places as a child? The drugstore, ballet class, and the bookstore.  I spent hours browsing all the books.  We even had an actual “library” in our house.  It was a magical place full of Golden Books, National Geographic, picture books, and novels.

In highschool, I was fortunate enough to attend a school that didn’t ban books- classics!- like Catcher in the Rye and The Bell Jar which were considered too “racy” or “controversial” for students.  I feel fortunate that I had the opportunity (though at the time it felt more like a chore) to experience classic literature.  Who would have thought that I’d be so thankful for all those book reports and essays years later?

Unfortunately, as I’ve gotten older, I’ve devoted less and less time to something I really love.  It becomes difficult to find time to just sit down and crack open a book.  Who am I kidding?  I’ve just started filling my downtime with useless TV shows and meaningless Facebooking and Tweeting.  So, this weekend, when we hit up Barnes and Noble for some bookshelf booty I felt like a kid all over again.

When I told my mom what I’d done this past weekend she was thrilled.  Something she always says to me is, “Reading will make you a better writer!”  She’s absolutely right… as usual.

Books are a very inexpensive way to make yourself more interesting.  Not all of us have the opportunity, let alone the resources, to travel all over the world and none of us can travel back in time (unless you’re Marty McFly).  For less than a movie ticket, you can be transported to a foreign land or different century.  Not to mention all the intellectual cuties who hang out in bookstores.

Having trouble figuring out where to start?  Here are a few books that stick out in my mind as “must reads” or at least books that I really enjoyed.  (To list them all could take forever).

  1. Gone with the Wind by  Margaret Mitchell – This may take you about a month to read, but talk about a classic! Rhett Butler is the original Mr. Big.
  2. Trading Up by Candace Bushnell (yes, the same woman who wrote Sex and the City)
  3. The Help by Kathryn Stockett – Cried my eyes out. Such a great book. Read it before they ruin it on the big screen.
  4. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee – Another banned book in most schools, but incredibly touching.
  5. Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov

So, next time you are debating whether to sit through another episode of Kourtney and Kim Take New York or The Jersey Shore (which is lesser of two evils?), perhaps you’ll just hit “power” and pick up a book instead.

The End.

xx,

WhyDid

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