WhyDid Wisdom: Do It Yourself

By |April 14th, 2010|WhyDid Wisdom|

one lady dinner

People wonder why I don’t discuss my love life in my posts. Well, there a few reasons. One being that I’ve had some pretty traumatic experiences that aren’t ready to be discussed (yet) and another being that writing the details of my love life might mess up my game.  The current reason? I don’t really have a love life.  I have decided that I’m just not in the right place for it and there is no reason to subject someone else to my relationship ADD or lack of willingness to commit to anything serious.

Now, don’t take this the wrong way. I love the thought of sharing my life with someone special, but not right now. I’m actually happier than I’ve been in quite some time. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want and not feel guilty about it. I can sit around and partake in my “secret single behavior” without ever being judged. It’s really kind of amazing.

There are some little perks that may be missing by not having someone “special” in your life, but these are all things you can do yourself. So, if you are choosing a temporary bout of celibacy like me (or Lady Gaga), here are some sweet nothings to whisper in your own ear:

Floral Sex: I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it again, why wait for some dude to buy you flowers (probably the wrong ones) when you can hit any deli in the city and buy yourself some? They’ll brighten up your home and your mood.

What Lies Beneath: I always feel much better when I’m wearing beautiful underpinnings.  There’s no reason you should save your sexy lingerie for a special occasion. Every day is special.

Putting on the Spritz: Perfume isn’t just for a hot date. Nor should it really be meant for someone else. I always dab on my favorite scent before leaving the house, but I especially love to spritz it on right before bed.

Fall Down the Rabbit Hole: I mean, without getting too into detail… Why not enjoy yourself… alone? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You’re probably a whole lot safer healthwise both physically and emotionally.

Spoiler Alert: Whether you buy yourself something shiny or cook yourself your favorite meal, it’s great to pamper yourself every once in a while. Go to the spa, get a massage, get a manicure, feel good about yourself. There’s nothing more gratifying than knowing you can take care of yourself.

See? The single life is highly underrated. I’m enjoying it for the time being. The more you take care of yourself, the more likely you’ll be able to care of someone else when you’re ready. Besides, I share my bed with the most handsome man every single night, Smitty Lebron Smith.